Add in the theme of the book - open relationships and sexuality - and writing funny, relatable
Cooper Beckett is a master of the short essay, a form that is notoriously hard to get right. Add in the theme of the book - open relationships and sexuality - and writing funny, relatable, short pieces becomes immensely harder. Cooper's essays are delightfully earnest, and illustrate the human experiences underlying what's often thought of as a sexual outsider community: swingers, polyamorous folks, and kinksters. Insecurities about whether others will find you attractive? Check. Body image issues? Yep. Fears of emotional abandonment? In spades.
By opening up about his sexual adventures, Cooper (always wittily) engages readers and challenges us to see our own experiences reflected in his. Not all readers will have attended swinger parties or participated in threesomes, granted, but this book not only makes the human element of these experiences accessible, but also presents little gems of wisdom about human nature in the process. Being human is messy. Coming to terms with one's sexual desires, and how to manifest those desires, is triply so. Cooper pairs grace and gentle humor (often self-deprecating) with a fiery passion for equality and tolerance for all.
If you're looking for a book to supplement the how-to classics of non-monogamy (The Ethical Slut; Opening Up) or to lend a human inflection to the often-dry academic research on alternative sexualities, then give this book a shot. Or if you've simply stumbled upon this fascinating thing called non-monogamy, or you want to explain it to others around you, go ahead and pick this up book up. It's one of the friendliest, funniest rabbit holes you'll encounter.
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